Be Your Own Evidence

I was taught to follow tracks and traces when it comes to life decisions since I was a little girl.

Whenever I wanted to do something that was not in the family or society expectations, the adults would always warn me,

“We’ve seen so much. Who and who made this kind of decision and regretted it.”

“We’ve seen so much and experienced so much. You are way too young to understand.”

Of course, whatever I wanted to do or decision I made, the evidences went AGAINST me.

I spent so many years during living in doubts and fear, doubts on my own intuition and wisdom; fear for failure.

And by now you know my story, I went in depression (though no clinical diagnosed but I was in bad shape).

I couldn’t take it anymore; I couldn’t take that ME anymore.

When I crawled (yes, crawling) out of the abyss, I made a decision, “FxxK evidences, I am going to be the #evidence!”

Since then, I never make any (life) decision because I saw someone making it. I #DECIDE I am going to make it.

When I told people I wanted to have a job enabling me to travel to many countries, they thought I was day-dreaming.

When I told people I wanted to find a boss who would accommodate me, they thought I was day-dreaming.

When I told people I wanted to make it to department head in a major market in less than 10 years, they thought I was day-dreaming.

When I told people I wanted to move to Milan to study fashion, they thought I was day-dreaming.

I made all of them and more.

Of course, when I told people I quit my fabulous corporate job, they thought I was finally out of my mind.

Honestly, I didn’t know how I would make it but I know I will make it.

Of course, there were many many failed attempts and I learned precious lessons from all of them. I even found allies, supports as well as compassion, kindness, inspirations, love through all of them. So, I didn’t exactly fail by my own standard.

Trust me, BE THE EVIDENCE may look terrifying on the outside but it’s in fact much more easier in the inside.

Hey, I am showing you one evidence now, ME. So, if you are one of the many, TIME TO ACT!





  • Are you an achiever, a doer and a go getter? Achieving is daily life for you; yet, is there a voice constantly telling you you are not enough?
  • Have you had setbacks, heart breaks, challenges, struggles and you simply get up and get going?
  • Do you have parts of you neatly tucked away because everyone says those will stop you from being successful?
  • Do you play by the rules in every aspect of your life and feel exhausted and lost?
  • Do you have a story or a truth burning inside; yet, you never have the permission to speak it out?

Do you want to believe there is another way to Lead and Live that is full of compassion and love by your own definition?

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I am a surfer, a mind explorer, a writer and a lifestyle coach.

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