Please Do Not Auto-Correct My Love

“Faith, love and sex are the most powerful of all the major positive emotions. When the three are blended, they have the effect of “coloring” the vibration of thought in such a way that it instantly reaches the subconscious mind, where it is changed into its spiritual equivalent, the only form that induces a response from Infinite Intelligence.” — Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

I met this guy, a surfer too, around last September. I liked him immediately at the very first exchange of words.

We grew close after many hours and numerous times of conversations after our morning surf.

We talked about both random and philosophical things.

I was the one always sounded filled with emotion and passion and he was the one who was always rooted and kept emotion fluctuation in check.

I used the word “love” with conviction every so often.

“I love surfing.”

“I love writing.”

“I love my friend’s cat.”

“I loved that guy.”

“I loved my last career.”

And then I noticed since the first time, he would act like an auto-correct program, repeating my sentence but changing “love” to “like… (very much).”

I teased him, “Scare much?”

I teased him, “But you LOVE surfing, don’t you?” (Duh, it was so obvious. We were both surfing fanatics.) He dodged my question and made a joke to play his passion down and only later on, had a slip of tongue and auto-corrected himself.

I took in this experience in wonder.

And wonder, “What connotation about love so frightening?”

Rewinding further back to my first year in Shanghai, with another guy, we were taking a stroll after our first or second dinner date. He was wondering how I could deal with those long hours and over time at work.

“…But I love my job.” I replied without second thought or much thought at all.

He paused. I wondered whether I said something out of place.

“I’ve never heard anyone say that they love their job and you sounded real.”

Of course I was genuine. I LOVED my last career.

Is it because we grew up and learned to manage disappointment by not investing emotions?

Is it because the passion to love is too much to bear?

Is it because altogether emotions simply requires to be balanced and maintained at a flat line?

What if we can use love as the weighing chips to measure everything instead of reason, intelligence, logic or competition?

I found the world more abundant and enjoyable and full of possibilities.

And, when many considering me good at time management, the fact is that because I only focus on love. I dedicate my time mostly to things I can say love with great conviction.

And, when I stop compartmentalize my affections but call all love, I am left with more energy to really be in life.

Now, whenever the word L word comes up, I deliberately stress the word to annoy my friend.

Please do not auto-correct my love because it’s meant to be larger than life.

Would you be willing to show up all the time from such place?

Are you like me believing this is possible?

When you come in contact with me, I Love You Already.





  • Are you an achiever, a doer and a go getter? Achieving is daily life for you; yet, is there a voice constantly telling you you are not enough?
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  • Do you have parts of you neatly tucked away because everyone says those will stop you from being successful?
  • Do you play by the rules in every aspect of your life and feel exhausted and lost?
  • Do you have a story or a truth burning inside; yet, you never have the permission to speak it out?

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I am a surfer, a mind explorer, a writer and a lifestyle coach.

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